SIX SIMPLE STEPS TO A HAPPIER HEALTHIER YOU
Review Your Life and Find Freedom
Simple in theory but this can be a challenging process!
Begin by making a list of everything in your life that is good and positive. You may be surprised how long this is! We all tend to concentrate on the negative aspects of our lives, and tend to take the good things for granted.
Then make a second list of the day to day things that cause you stress, anxiety or make you unhappy. Look at what you can do to change some of these negative things.
Make the easy changes first. Is there something that you can do in a different way or that can be done less often?
What can you change to give yourself more time or less stress?
Simple things like taking the long way home to avoid a busy traffic junction can make a stressful journey into a more pleasant one.
Take each item on your list in turn and look at ways to make it better or easier.
Then take a good look at the things that you are not able to change. If you can’t change them then try to change your attitude towards them. Accept that they have to be done. Try and look at them as the balance to the good things you have in your life. If you do them with resentment and anger you will fill yourself with those emotions!
Having dealt with the day to day concerns it is time to consider more personal issues
Are you fearful, angry, manic, melancholic, anxious, jealous, or guilty? Do you always put your needs last?
Is there something or someone in your life preventing you from being your true self?
Do you feel unfulfilled?
Are you being who you really are?
Are you able to speak about what you feel, think and want from life or do you swallow your thoughts and feelings?
If you can answer YES to any of these then you may have emotional issues that need resolving. The first step is to admit to yourself what you are feeling. Admitting it to yourself does not mean that you have to do anything about it. You are in charge of your life and should make decisions at your own pace, when you are ready. If you don’t feel ready then you should not make any decisions. Take your time. Sometimes admitting to yourself that an issue exists is enough, so you no longer hide from it and you can feel more in control. You will decide what and when you will do about it, if anything.
The second step is to actively do something to help resolve the issue. This may be a step you do not take for some time, but by following the first 5 steps of the 6 Simple Steps program you may soon find that you have become mentally and physically able to deal with your issues. It may be that you can resolve the problem by yourself, or by talking it through with a partner, or a friend. On the other hand, you may need outside help to overcome the issue. There are many organisations out there to help you cope with everything from debt to bereavement, from marriage problems to physical and mental disabilities. You may find your needs are best helped by talking to a religious or spiritual leader, a doctor or a legal expert. If you have difficulty in pinning down the real underlying causes of your negative feelings, you may find working with a counsellor really helpful in getting to the root of the problem.Remember you do not have to do this alone. We all need help from time to time, and asking for help does not mean you are any less of a person…just the opposite in fact, as you have found the strength to face your issues.
AND FINALLY…………………….None of us are perfect, but try to give yourself the same compassion, tolerance and respect as you would offer to others. You are no less important than anyone else, and deserve to be treated in this way by everyone, including you!